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Am I lonely quiz: no score, no label

Seven questions about who's around you. Your answers, not a score.

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Something happens today, good or bad. Who would you text tonight?

Your answers come back here as a card. No score, no label.

Updated By the Stella team

How it works

Take this am I lonely quiz to see how things are in your own words, not as a score. It has seven questions about who you'd text tonight, the last time someone asked how you were and meant it, and the kind of company you miss. It takes a few minutes, and one card reads back what you said, with one person or place you picked to reach toward this week.

  1. Answer seven questions

    Tap a quick pick or say it your way. Skip anything you'd rather not answer, and Back keeps what you wrote.

  2. Tell lonely from alone

    Two questions ask how time on your own feels and where it's harder, on your own or around people. Being alone and feeling lonely aren't the same thing, and only you can say which this is.

  3. Keep your card

    At the end, the quiz gives your answers back as one card, with the person or place you picked for this week. You can copy it or print it. Nothing on it labels you.

Example results: three cards

Each card below comes from made-up answers, so you can see what you get back before you start.

Example written for this page

New city, nobody to text yet

Who you'd text tonight: No one here yet. My sister, but she's three hours ahead.

Last time someone asked and meant it: A while ago. My old roommate, in the spring.

If someone asked today: “Fine at work. Quiet everywhere else.”

Time on your own: Like a gap, mostly on Sundays.

Where it's harder: On my own.

The company you miss: Being known. Someone who already knows the backstory.

This week, one person or place: The Tuesday run club. Go twice.

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Around people all day, and nobody asks

Who you'd text tonight: A group chat. Nobody in particular.

Last time someone asked and meant it: Can't remember.

If someone asked today: “Busy. Tired of always being the one who asks.”

Time on your own: Like rest, honestly.

Where it's harder: Around people.

The company you miss: Being known.

This week, one person or place: Ask Maya for coffee, just the two of us.

Example written for this page

The kids moved out and the house is quiet

Who you'd text tonight: My partner, but he's asleep by nine.

Last time someone asked and meant it: This month. My neighbor, over the fence.

If someone asked today: “I'm not sure what my days are for since the kids left.”

Time on your own: Both. Peaceful in the morning, a gap by evening.

The company you miss: Being needed.

This week, one person or place: The library's Thursday volunteer shift.

You skipped where it's harder. Sometimes what you skip is worth a second look.

Am I lonely? Seven questions to ask yourself

You can be alone and fine, or surrounded by people and lonely. One way to tell them apart: alone describes who's around, and lonely is the feeling that the company you have isn't the company you want. These seven questions help you sort out which one this is. They work on paper too, or in a note on your phone.

Something happens today, good or bad. Who would you text tonight?
It asks who's close right now, not who's in your phone. A group chat where nobody in particular replies, and no one at all, are honest answers too.
When did someone last ask how you were, and actually want to know?
Being asked by someone who means it is different from small talk. How long ago it was can say more than how many people you see in a day.
If someone asked today and meant it, what would you tell them?
Putting it into a sentence shows what you've been carrying around. It can be one line, or just “fine, I guess.”
When you're on your own, does it feel like rest or like something's missing?
This is the alone or lonely question. Time on your own can be the best part of the week, and the same evening can feel long when something's missing.
Is it harder on your own, or around people?
You can feel lonely in a full room and fine in an empty one. Where it's harder points to the kind of company that's missing.
What kind of company are you missing most?
Missing company comes in kinds: being known by someone, having people in the room, or being counted on. Each one points to a different first move.
Who's one person, or one place, you could reach toward this week?
One is enough. A text to someone you've drifted from counts, and so does a class you go back to the next week.

When talking it through helps

A card shows who's around and who isn't, but it can't ask what “a while ago” was like, or hear the rest of what you'd tell someone who asked. On a night with no one to tell, that sentence sits there with nowhere to go.

Stella is your emotional wellness AI. You can tell her what happened today, by voice or text, even the part you're still figuring out, and she keeps what you've told her in mind. She isn't a stand-in for the person on your card. She's somewhere to say it tonight.

Questions about this quiz

Will this quiz tell me how lonely I am?

No. There's no score or label at the end. You answer seven questions in your own words, about who you'd text tonight, who last asked how you were and meant it, and the company you miss. The page reads your answers back as a card. Whether the word lonely fits is yours to decide.

Am I feeling lonely, or just alone?

You can be alone and fine, and lonely in a room full of people. One way to tell them apart: alone is who's around, and lonely is the feeling that the company you have isn't the company you want. Two questions in this quiz ask how time on your own feels and where it's harder.

Why does it ask who I'd text tonight?

Because it's concrete. How lonely you are is hard to put a number on, but who you'd text about a good or bad day usually comes to mind fast, or doesn't. Both tell you something. A partner, a group chat and “no one, really” are all fair answers, and you can skip the question.

What if my answer is no one?

Then put that on your card. The last question asks for one person or one place to reach toward this week, and a place counts: a class, a volunteer shift, the same coffee shop twice. And tonight, if you want to say how the day went, you can text Stella, your emotional wellness AI.

How long does the quiz take?

A few minutes. There are seven short questions, most with quick picks you can tap, and one you answer in your own words. You can skip any of them. At the end, the page reads your answers back as a card you can copy or print, and nothing on it tells you what you are.

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